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To leave a marriage?

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    kmarie
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    Im new to this forum and completely at a loss for what to do. Ive been with my spouse for 7 years, we have a 5 year old son. My husband has a gambling addiction that is ruining our lives. Over the years hes borrowed tens of thousands of dollars from people, everyone I know, family members behind my back etc. Our lives have gone downhill over time, we started out in a home, went to a condo, and are now onto our 3rd apartment in a year. I dont work, and am in college trying to get into medical school. I already have a degree but am now doing the pre medical sciences. Ive always been an A student and the past year I can see Ive become very depressed, i dont even want to go to class. I dont want to blame him but the stress he causes me with finances, evictions, lies and being gone days on end are too much for me. I cant function any more in this life. Ive tried many times to take over the finances, but Im not the one working so its hard to do. I have brought in money though from financial aid and was even so deesperate as to donate eggs, when I returned from that procedure the money was already gone, over 7000. He just recently lied to me again, told me rent was paid and it wasnt I got an eviciton notice again. And hes currently gone at a casino. He quits every decent job he has and tries every get rich quick scheme possible. Im just so tired of it. Im only 25, hes 38. Hes ruined my credit and broken me down.  I feel like Ive wasted so much of my life already and i feel if i stay with him its not healthy and there is no way I can accomplish my goals in life.  At the same time, I love him, he can be an amazing husband when he wants, and a great father. I feel like if i just get through medical school we will be okay with finances and such. But in reality theres no way I could get through it with the stress he causes me. Ive become bitter of people around me becuause their lives are progressing ours is getting worse and worse. I dont know what to do, is it worth trying to fix and stay in this? Any advice would be appreciated. Im willing to work at a marriage I just dont want to wake up in 20 years in the same position.

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